For the world was built to develop character

"There comes a point in your life when you realise who matters, who never did, who won't anymore and who always will. Don't worry about people in your past, theres a reason they didn't make it to the future."


After chatting to an old friend on facebook i can't help but to reminisce about our time spent together, and the thoughts and memories we shared. How simple and so completely complicated my life was whilst at the same time the little things came into play. The little things in life are often overlooked but are just as important as the big things. These "little things" we take for granted and only notice them once they are missing, instead of appreciating them and noticing them whilst they are right under our noses. That friend i was talking about above is off to Melbourne for a few days and i'm very jealous! To say the least, it's Melbourne. A place i've always wanted to move to. To me, simple hearing the world 'Melbourne' screams "Jodie get your ass into gear, save and move!" Yet, i can't just pack up my things and move to another city. I have my pets to think about and theres no way them here without me, not even for a few months. It's bad enough when im without them for a week! 


Anyway, chatting to old friends and new friends has painted a picture of the people i not only want in my life but really need. Im very fortunate to have the friends i do. They are so honest and supportive and considering the different circumstances we've overcome not only together but individually, i see each month pass by and i notice that not only do we grow closer together and our friendship strengthens, but personal growth occurs within me also. Its an amazing feeling. As i've said in earlier blogs emotional intelligence matters more than IQ and i want to be able to see the changes and developments occur in myself, and notice how having the supportive and positive people in my life makes a difference. Sometimes, we think its better to go it alone, hide our problems and face them on our ow when we think we can but only notice that bottling them up makes us implode from the inside out. This isn't a healthy way of dealing with issues, stresses in our daily lives, small or large. Sometimes, all you need to do is face up to them one by one, take each day as it comes and don't be afraid to open up a little to your friends, because sometimes they say one little thing that makes you see through the clouds. We get so wrapped up into our own problems we cant see a way out. The road is hazy and untravelled, but our friends (and not forgetting family also) can help clear the fog and pave the way for a clearer view. So although the road ahead may be a little rocky (take caution here) windy (slow down and reduce your speed) or even slippery when wet (again, caution!) our friends can help us through.


This week all it took was one phone call (a two hour phone call mind you) to help open my eyes and see things a little clearer. When people notice a pattern developing its better to tell the person and help them to figure out what to do about it instead of to simply sit back and watch them make the same mistake over again. I started this post talking about friendships and realising who matters in your life: who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. I believe some things happen for a reason but i don't believe everything that happens in life falls back onto that philosophy. You may disagree with me yet i just believe its common sense. Tonight ive gained a clearer picture of what i want in my life. To be happy in a new relationship i first off need to be happy with myself. It's not going to happen overnight, and its going to be an incredible journey and im grateful to the people who i know will be there every step of the way. 


For the world was built to develop character. The challenges we face build up our endurance and teach us to listen to our minds but follow our hearts. Its a combination of features and qualities that make us all unique and form the individual nature of a person or thing. 


Until the stars fall,


JP x